I saw this Klondike commercial (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O9vSAepxC9o) yesterday and was absolutely disgusted. It's appalling. Not only does it give into the sexist idea that men deserve a cookie for being halfway decent human beings, but it also degrades men by suggesting that they're animals, incapable of resisting any ass girl that happens to pass their way. “Kept his eyes on his wife”? Not even his girlfriend (although still demoralizing) but his WIFE? Wow. What a good hubby! Now go fetch the Klondike!
There's also this (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qalOYQrgxqQ&feature=related) Klondike bar commercial that rewards the stereotypical "lazy husband" for putting his glass in the dishwasher.
Thumbs down.

Peeping toms legalized?

For those of you who didn't hear, earlier in March a 34 year old man was caught taking pictures up this 16 year old girl's skirt at Target and the Tulsa Court appealed the case, 4-1 in favor of the creepy old man! That's right, the felony charge was dismissed. That was based upon a determination that "the person photographed was not in a place where she had a reasonable expectation of privacy". Hear that ladies? If you wear a skirt or dress in Target, it's 100% LEGAL for strangers to take pictures up your dress without your consent or you even knowing! In other words, it is open season for peeping toms in public places who want to look under a woman's dress. Nice, eh?

That's Oklahoma for ya, right? Wrongo.
Just today a similar Florida case has been thrown out which charged a man who used a mirror to look under a woman's skirt at Barnes & Noble. The nasty man's defense attorney argued that the charge should be dropped because the creepy man's accuser didn't have a "reasonable expectation of privacy in a public place under Florida law". And guess what? It was dropped. Good to know that all is well in the world and I can finally sleep now.

Seriously now. Didn't have a reasonable expectation of privacy? In Barnes and Noble and Target? So if I wear a dress to Barnes and Noble and Mr.Pervert over there pretending to read knitting books wants to take pics up my dress- it's okay?! Well, apparently, it is. I really don't understand why or how people are getting away with this. How can a court look at a man who took pictures up a 16 year old girl's skirt and say, "Well! You are a man! That is expected of you and she WAS wearing a skirt in a public place which sounds to me like an open invite...SO- Mr.Pervertman- come with me and we'll get some Micky D's and you'll tell me what camera is best for demoralizing young girls with."

Don't you just love all this freedom we have?

I love California

May 15, 2008

The California Supreme Court decided today that same-sex couples should be permitted to wed, ruling that gay unions must be given the "respect and dignity" of marriage. In a 4-3 vote, the court became the first in the country to apply the constitutional protections reserved for race and gender to sexual orientation. The Massachusetts high court struck down bans on same-sex marriage in 2003, but under a different legal theory.

The court held that people have a fundamental right to marry the person of their choice and struck down marriage laws limiting matrimony to opposite-sex couples as a violation of the state constitution's equal protection guarantees.
Gov. Arnold Schwarzenegger, who has vetoed two bills in favor of gay marriage, said today he would not try to undermine the court's ruling and would continue to oppose the proposed ballot measure.

This makes me happy. It's good to know that this country is changing for the better, one state at a time. I believe that everyone should be treated equally- EVERYONE. I don't like racism, sexism, homophobia and homophobic laws and all that jazz. The world would be better if we thought with our hearts, not our traditional brainless heads. California is the first state to give gay couples the exact same rights as heterosexual couples. This is history. I am so proud to call this ghetto place my home-state. <3

Modesty extremists?

According to LDS.org, "Modesty is an attitude of propriety and decency in dress, grooming, language, and behavior." Awesome, right? Modesty rocks.

And yet, this animated girl advertising modesty, well, just isn't modest enough.

I love style and fashion and like to go to the beat of my own drum with it. Leggings are a big part of that. I have them in like, ten different colors- even polka dots. They're great to wear under skirts, shorts (my fave), short dresses, and pants (in the winter), and are flippin' comfortable as ever. AND it's something I've been doing since Pre-K. Whether they are "in" or "out", I don't care. I love them and have always used them as a way to wear the cute short things while still keeping it real. I understand that leggings are "form-fitting" but we are talking about legs here, people. LEGS.

That's why this advertisement bothers the heck out of me. It's mad extreme. Seriously, check out that girl. She is LITERALLY covered from head to toe and yet is STILL not modest enough. If modesty in the fashion department (and lds.org) is described as being "decently dressed" and "groomed well", this advertisement is in total opposition because (1) she IS dressed modestly and (2) who has the right to be telling girls (always girls, like I've said before) how long their hemline should be anyways? Yeah, NO ONE. My mother stopped dressing me at the age of three. I think women in college can handle themselves.

Miley Cyrus...need I say more?

I am just dumbfounded at how many HOURS of media coverage Miley Cyrus has gotten these past few days. Let's think about this. Miley Cyrus, Disney star, 15 years old, ONE sexy pic, HOURS AND HOURS of media coverage. We're in the middle of a freaken war and presidential debates and Miley Cyrus completely covered in a sheet is what's consuming (and distracting) the publics thoughts of what's truly important enough to be on the news. What disgusts me even more is that according to a poll on dotspotter.com, 53% (fifty freaking three percent!) of people consider this photo to be "child pornography" while the other 47% consider the photo to be art. Now, I am not about to post a photo of REAL child porn on here to prove my point on whether the photo is porn or art, but I think that just a tad bit of common sense proves my point that, sorry perverts, it's art. Harmless art at that. Britney Spears was 16 when she did "Baby One More Time" and it was not seen as porn or demoralizing. She actually got the reputation of the "girl next door" right after that. Not that I am dissing "Baby One More Time", but let's look at that video and then take a good and hard look at the cover of Vanity Fair...point taken.

Miley's apology was melancholy disturbing as well. "I took part in a photo shoot that was supposed to be 'artistic' and now, seeing the photographs and reading the story, I feel so embarrassed". Embarrassed? Whatever. She is owned and under contract with Disney, of course they would make her say that. Yes, let's make it seem like it was not her decision whatsoever. Let's make it look that since she is just 15 years old (what I was only 4 years ago) she cannot make real decisions for herself. She was encouraged by adults and no one stopped her. Gee, I wonder why. Maybe it's because she wasn't doing anything wrong. Now there's an idea! She is a person. I was just 15 four Christmas's ago! And I can recall still having just as much a mind of my own as I do now. Stop blaming others for HER decision. She made the choice to do it and it turned out great. (Child pornography, lol)

The real point I am trying to make here is that it's depressing at how this ONE picture is such a BAD thing to American's. Really. Look at it. Is it THAT bad? Is it really SUCH a big deal? Is it really encouraging Hannah Montana fans all over the country (and I say country instead of world because I know the world knows better) to become sex addicts? It's art. Just art. Even if it was all about sex, so what? Sexing up girls is nothing new in the first place. In western art most of the women portrayed semi-clad or totally nude are children. When Lucian Freud paints girl children, nobody cares. Botticelli paints the yet-to-be-enjoyed goddess of love emerging from the sea and people come from all over the world to gape at her. The Greeks and Romans liked their goddesses meaty- our preferred Venuses are children. Hardy perennials such as Diane de Poitiers held their sway as long as they did because their bodies never matured. Kate Moss has been able to earn millions only as long as she could continue to project the body image of a 13-year-old.

So it's an artsy sexy photo of a 15 year old girl....so what? Let's take all the extreme ideas of child pornography and the idea that a 15 year old girl cannot take full credit for her own decisions- lock it up in a nice little safe and throw it onto the unknown planet of Nibiru where in 2012 it will come back to haunt those who believed and encouraged them in the first place.

Have YOU been acused of being "METRO"?

Conversation I had earlier (and so similar to so many others):

Alyssa: Where’s so and so?
Boy: Oh, he takes his time to get dressed. Haha, fag. He’s a metrosexual.
Alyssa: He’s a metrosexual because he…takes his time? He has style though.
Boy: Yeah, exactly my point.
Alyssa: What do you call a girl that has a good sense of style?
Boy: A girl.
Alyssa: A girl?
Boy: Yeah, a girl. What’s your point?
Alyssa: So a boy who spends time having style is not a boy, he is a metrosexual. And a girl who spends having style is…just a girl?
Boy: Yeah.
Alyssa: Why is that?
Boy: Why is what?
Alyssa: Why is it that a guy who cares about his looks is put down and gets a special demeaning name while a girl who does the exact same thing, if not worse, is just…being a girl?
Boy: Because girls are supposed to care how they look.

Excuse me while I gag myself to death. For all the men out there who are criticized for having style or for looking like he cares (gasp!), I am sorry about these unstylish insecure men. And for those out there who use this disgusting word, shame shame, I probably know your name.

Just because a guy has style does not make him a “metro”. It simply means he has style. Just as girl who has style is not called anything but a girl with style. What's the definition of metrosexual anyways? Some define metrosexual as "a straight man in touch with his feminine side". Others classify it with more specificity, such as "a straight man, who lives in an inner-city environment, who is into designer clothes, art museums, musicals, and other non-macho pursuits." (non-macho…nice)

It’s all a part of the femiphobia that has been going on since the dawn of time. How the worst thing you can call a guy is girl- and the worst thing you can call a girl is (you guessed it!) a girl. It’s also messed up the way girls are the only ones (supposedly) who should care how they look. The fact that being metrosexal is associated with acting like a girl is what really gets me. Why? Because being called metrosexual is never used in a good sense. When was the last time you heard, “Hey bob, you’re looking supa metro today! Kudos!”. It’s used in a way of, well, calling a guy a girl! Psh, and who wants to be that? Not I! Back off and learn a thing or two from a man who has self respect and confidence because (a) we are all human and share the SAME feelings and (b) it feels good when you look good, regardless if you have breasts or not.
I’ve even heard someone (an unnamed guy friend) say that wearing lotion was “so metro”. Yeah, because taking care of your body is something only GIRLS should do. And you don’t want to be seen acting like a GIRL now do you? No, no you most certainly do not.

The stuff that metrosexuals are thought to like, such as good clothes, art museums, and the theater, are things that I thought meant that you had class and cultural sophistication. Since when did all of these things become linked with one's sexuality? I read one person's definition online somewhere that a metrosexual was someone who has books in his house and has actually read them. What the- ? I thought a person who has books that he read was called "educated", not "metrosexual." Do men have to shun reading to prove that they're not gay?

Are you only a real man if you wear shabby old clothes and spend all your free time watching football on TV? This is what a lot of men out there seem to be trying to tell us.

To conclude my ranting, don't use this word. Ever. Unless you are talking about how dumb it is, I (and I'm sure the guy you are talking about) really don't care for your oh-so-macho and manly arrogance.

Don't look cute- for the boys sake!

The other day at work I was called into the office (dun dun dun!) for quite a few dumb things (what else is new, right?). But this time, this time really tops it off. Now, as many of you know I work at Petsmart in the Salon. Right now I am working at the Petsmart in OK City for training. But anywho, our uniforms consist of these water proof black pants, black shoes, and this short sleeved zip up shirt we call a "smock". Does is matter what we wear underneath? No. We can go commando for all they care. But apparently, some "anonymous" dude that works at the same Petsmart as me at the moment saw me take my smock off at lunch, and well, was a little to "distracted" by my oh so "revealing" top. It distracted him SO much, that he had to complain to the manager (who is also of the male origin I might add) and asked him to ask me to wear less "revealing" tops. Now, I'm sure you are wondering what the big deal was? Just how revealing was this top that Alyssa the immodest girl was trying to distract the boys with? Just scroll down. Yeah. Yeah! That's the top. The exact one. With my baggy slushy pants slushing down the aisles of dog bones and flea shampoo- how could that not turn any man on and distract him from stocking the last cans of dog food on that top shelf? The worst part is that the Manager AGREED! Does it matter that all the guys walk around on their brakes with these tacky super tight white tank tops in half uniform? No. Does it matter that the over weight (not that I am dissing over weight women...I like a girl with meat just as much as the next meat loving girl) women in my salon walk around on their brakes with tank tops and their boobs half way hanging out of their tops? No. That's no distraction. Not at all. But Alyssa wearing a casual 3/4 sleeve- non cleavage revealing (not like I have any)- non mid drift showing top- watch out ladies and gentleman! Alyssa Priest just clocked in and she's on the prowl for some male attention!

Seriously, things like this happen every day. That manager should have told that guy to get some serious sexual therapy. Instead- I got a warning. Yay me. I don't mind never wearing that shirt again to work. No big deal. But the fact that my Manager told me that I was inappropriate and was not representing the store in a decent manner is just plain discrimination against skinny people. There. I said it. The men get away with tank tops, the big and/or older women get away with tiny tank tops. And I, the smallest (and youngest) girl in the store can't wear tops that look cute in general- regardless how much I am covering. Seriously, this is not the only instance this has happened. It's getting old and it needs to stop. The men out there who only see breasts when they look at a girl (whether she is covered or not) need help. Instead he is played at the VICTIM and the woman the PREDATOR. (wtf?)

When you hear someone saying something about how a girl is dressed (because YES, it will ALWAYS be a girl) call them out on it. Tell them that if it bothers them they need to (a) get some medical attention or (b) grow a brain. Either one should work well. And this goes for the ladies too! I've heard girls judge other girls choice of clothing (and again, it will always be GIRLS clothing, never guys) just as bad as the men. If not worse! Does it not seem odd that women are judged so much more harshly on what they wear than men? It's not. Speak up and don't let your peers think that calling a girl a slut or anything else due to her choice of wardrobe is okay. Men walk around topless in public for goodness sake.

And here we can observe Alyssa Priest CLEARLY trying to seduce this young man with her erotic top...yummy. This was the exact shirt I was wearing when this happened...see what I mean?